My wish is to have better life has been with me for as long as I can remember. But what people typically imagine as a “better life” at age 20 is usually different from what they imagine 30 years later. In your 20s, this concept can be based on material things, and many believe that this is what makes people happier. But after a while, a “better life” is impossible without passion, love and laughter, which make a person happy. And material things take second place.
Even though our definition of what constitutes a “best life” may change over the course of a year, the steps we take to achieve it will not. The fact is that we must give up some things that prevent us from improving our lives.
The list of 15 things you should give up is in no particular order. Only you can decide what is more important to you. In addition, if you really want to change your life, then you must clearly understand what it should be like. This will help you identify the key points.
1. Stop complicating your life
Complexity creates confusion and hides the solution from you. It's very difficult to be creative and innovative if you're stuck in problems and details. Complexity also prevents you from seeing the solution to a problem, even if it is in front of you.
2. Don't add stress to your life.
If you're too busy, working on things you don't really need, striving for perfection, taking on more responsibilities because you think it will make you more valuable, you'll end up not having enough time to be yourself. This kind of stress is harmful to your health, and there is no need to quote everything Scientific research to believe it. If you are constantly in a stressful situation, sooner or later it will kill you. Therefore, if you tend to create stress in your life, then stop doing it. Try to figure out exactly why you are prone to stress and change it.
3. Stop regretting what you have done in the past, what you have not achieved and what you have lost.
The past is behind you, so what matters more is where you are now and who you want to be in the future. All your past mistakes, failures and experiences have taught you to live your life in the present and future. Accept your past and what you have learned from it and allow yourself to move on.
4. Don't say you don't have enough time
Whether it's meeting a friend, visiting an elderly aunt, watching the sunset or sunrise, celebrating, reading a book or taking a nap, you should treasure these moments because you never know how long you can enjoy them. Without time, you may miss all the most precious and beautiful moments in your life. Don't put off important things you need to do just because you've convinced yourself you don't have time.
5. Stop being afraid of your future, possible mistakes and changes in plans
Fear paralyzes you so you won't be able to make any changes in your life. It is your limiting beliefs that will control your thoughts and actions while feeding your fear. You must deal with all these beliefs and find out why you are still afraid. Conquer your fear and take action, it will set you free.
6. Stop procrastinating on everything you want to do.
Whether it's taking a cooking class, learning a second language, going back to university, writing a book or taking an art course, just go out and do it. Take a trip to Europe, join a gym, lose excess weight. Find out what is important to you and what will make you happy, and then go do it.
7. Stop expecting happiness from others, it can only come from within.
When you look at others and expect someone to make you happy, it is a sign that you are insecure. This is very dangerous because you may convince yourself that you only feel happy around the people you love. In reality, this is only part of the equation that will lead you to happiness. Only you can make yourself happy, so it is very important to understand what exactly you need to do this.
8. Stop comparing yourself to others
Why is this so important? The point is that this comparison will always be against you, and you will feel unhappy. If you're still comparing, stop and think about how you can improve your self-confidence.
9. Stop waiting for the right moment
Don't wait for the "right time" to take action, make changes, quit your job, follow your dreams and do what will make you happy and bring you that "best life." The right time will never come. If you decide to wait, you will have to admit to yourself that life is passing you by and you will never achieve what you want. If you stop waiting, you will get everything you want. Everything is very simple!
10. Stop running from problems and take the path of least resistance
It's very easy to do. Hiding from problems or looking for the easiest way out of them. But the problem will not go away. She will chase you or wait at the finish line. Running away from problems or taking the easy option will not make you feel brave. Life is imperfect and full of problems, difficult and bad periods. All problems that you encounter along the way must be addressed. Sometimes you have to make bold and difficult decisions.
11. Stop spending time with people who drain your energy.
This is very difficult to manage, because in our lives there are always people with whom communication is not always good for us. This is especially true at work, where you cannot always choose who you communicate with. To stop spending time with the wrong people, you will have to develop a strategy for communicating with them. You must minimize the impact they have on your life. Relationships with such people are toxic for you and they can bring unhappiness into your life.
12. Stop thinking about what shouldn't happen. Focus on what you would like
If you focus on what you don't want, it's a sign that you don't know what you want in life and you're not committed to making the necessary changes to improve it. You have no desire, no motivation, no vision for your future. So you start thinking about what could go wrong. You need to figure out what you want, motivate yourself and make the necessary changes. It's simple, but it also requires work and perseverance.
13. Stop trying to be someone you are not. You will end up confusing yourself.
Otherwise, you will start doing things that contradict your value system. After some time, you will even be able to convince yourself that you did everything right, and you will be able to justify any of your actions. But still, soon the feeling of dissatisfaction and unhappiness will rise to the surface, and you will have a choice - either ignore everything and continue to live with this feeling, or stop doing what you don’t like. If you choose the latter, your life will be better.
14. Stop putting other people's needs before your own.
If you are still doing this, you are not taking care of yourself and are playing the role of a martyr. This means that you will have to sacrifice yourself for the good of others, but this role is only good for those people who have consciously made such a choice. But everyone can't be a saint, and that doesn't mean you are bad person. Ask yourself why you are sacrificing your own needs. Perhaps the problem is that this is the only way you can feel loved.
15. Stop beating yourself up
Regardless of what exactly you don’t like about yourself - you are not perfect enough, smart, good, too fat or lazy - just stop and stop blaming yourself for all the qualities that seem unworthy to you.
So, friends, today there will be an interesting post about Ukraine, which is a favorite topic among many commentators on my blog - they write about Ukraine in the comments even in a post that has nothing to do with Ukraine - just like in the joke about a student, fish wool and fleas.
Meanwhile, there really is interesting topics, which relate to Ukraine and which, it seems to me, are really worth discussing. Next year, presidential elections will be held in Ukraine - which will determine the life of this country for the next five years. Unlike Belarus and Russia, where everything is determined in advance (as in Zamyatin’s dystopian novel “We”), elections in Ukraine are really real, the political struggle is real, and the outcome of the elections is unpredictable.
I’ll say right away that I generally like how modern Ukraine is developing. Despite the war incited by Putin, new enterprises are opening in the country, GDP is growing, albeit slowly, several large-scale and successful reforms have taken place (for example, a new police force), the country has received . There are many positive changes at the local level - modern Kyiv looks much cleaner and nicer than itself.
At the same time, despite all the reforms and the generally positive movement, Ukraine remains in many ways a Soviet-era country, and today I will tell you about the remnants of the Soviet Union that Ukraine needs to deal with in the next five years. I invite everyone to discuss the post in the comments - there, of course, there will be a lot of outcries about crucified Russian-speaking bullfinches and horizontal bars cut down by Yarosh personally, as well as proposals to return to the throne - but I am sure that there will also be a lot of sensible thoughts. I believe in you)
1. Privatization of state-owned enterprises.
In Ukraine now there are many state-owned enterprises with very complicated accounting and the presence of many years of “laundering schemes”, many of which date back to Soviet times. An example of such a laundering corruption scheme is the so-called VAT refund. The tax authorities of Ukraine are actually in manual mode they decide whether a company falls under VAT refund or not - and those enterprises that fall under this law immediately become surrounded by “corruption and schemes.”
I think there is no need to explain that the refunded VAT, according to all sorts of complex schemes, ends up in the pockets of officials. Moreover, the state-owned enterprise itself is often subsidized - that is, it operates at a loss and receives funding from the country’s budget. The products of such an unprofitable enterprise are not in demand, workers receive $100-$200 salaries, the enterprise is drawing money from the budget, the top management of the enterprise are millionaires “on the scheme” - and all this continues for years. But it is believed that “there is low unemployment in the country.”
It’s time to end this scoop, and all sorts of “anti-corruption bureaus” are not the answer here - money laundering schemes will simply become more hidden. A simple step is needed - the privatization of all state-owned enterprises (and there are about three thousand of them in Ukraine, not counting small ones), the closure of unprofitable ones. Let private owners decide for themselves what to do with them, and rest assured, without government subsidies and any “refunds” there will be no corruption. The second step is the complete abolition of VAT, then there will be no corruption schemes with it.
2. Normal private property, land market.
The second crap that Ukraine inherited from the swallowed-up communists is the lack of private ownership of land. You will be surprised, but more or less large plots of land in Ukraine still remain the property of the state and, as it were, lie as “dead weight”, although they could have long ago become money (the lifeblood of the economy).
What’s funny is that even many Ukrainian “supposedly not soviet” and “anti-communists” come out with purely Bolshevik slogans about banning the market for land - they say, the bourgeoisie will come, buy up all our dear land, and we will all remain orphans and wretched. For some reason, they always give the example of some mythical grandmother who was deceived and her land was bought for next to nothing. In this case, why not go further and ban the real estate market - what if the villains lure out an apartment from grandma in the same way?
The lack of a market for land is a colossal brake on the Ukrainian economy, which prevents the entry of large foreign business, who needs normal guarantees of ownership. Plus, as I already wrote, land outside the market is a huge “dead weight” on the economy, which could become money.
3. Bringing the market out of the shadows.
Official average salaries in Ukraine are very low (as opponents of this country often like to flaunt), but Ukrainians live more or less tolerably - certainly no worse than Russians outside St. Petersburg/Moscow, and this is in the absence of mineral resources, such as gas or oil. The reason for this state of affairs is that a huge part of the Ukrainian market for goods and services is in the shadows. This means that all transactions are hidden from the state, and taxes on them are not paid to the budget. Of course, if this market came out of the shadows, then both Ukraine’s budget and its GDP would be much higher.
What needs to be done to bring this colossal part of the market out of the shadows? It's simple - taxes need to be reduced in the country. Now “laundering” capital in Ukraine costs about 10%, and taxes (including VAT) far exceed this percentage - so everyone is sitting “in the shadows”. If the tax was 5-7%, and there was no VAT at all, then everyone would work “in white” and honestly pay taxes to the budget, while not having problems with the law and living with a feeling of full participation in the life of the country.
4. Judicial reform, equality.
All these economic measures must be supported legislatively - Ukraine needs to continue judicial reform so that all citizens of this country are equal before the law and equal in the protection of their rights, and foreign investors who want to open this or that enterprise in Ukraine must also be sure of this. Judges should receive very (VERY) high salaries, and any violation of the law on their part should be punishable by huge prison terms.
By the way, Lee Kun Yu, the author of those reforms that in just 30 years brought Singapore from a third world country to the first, began with similar reforms, forever ending the poverty and misery of the past.
5. Farewell to the scoop.
Venedikt Erofeev, in his novel-poem “Moscow-Petushki”, well described the model of the Soviet economy using the example of the work of one brigade: “we provide them with social obligations once a month - they pay us a salary twice a month.” The “work” of the brigade consisted in the fact that they either buried or dug up the cable again, drinking water in their free time.
The pact “You pretend that you work and don’t get involved in politics, and we pretend that we pay your wages and turn a blind eye to your bullshit” ended in 2014 - the Soviet Union in Ukraine ended, began new story, and it won't happen anymore. You need to finally grow up and understand that the state will no longer give anything “for free”, will not feed you with subsidies, will not lead you by the hand and will not decide for you what you will do in life - now everything depends only on you and what you are really worth.
So it goes.
What do you think about this? And what measures for a better future would you propose for Ukraine?
Regardless of material and social status Most people think about how to live better. A millionaire dreams of a billion, a “hard worker” dreams of a higher salary, and a beggar dreams of a delicious lunch. All people are different, but almost everyone wants their living conditions to become more comfortable, and their activities and days to be interesting and full of new impressions.
Every person has at least once wondered what it takes to live well. Some people find the answer on their own, while others are ready to pay money to the next guru, hoping that he has Magic word or a pill, taking which you can wake up different, happier.
Main mission
Living well is the main task that every inhabitant of planet Earth strives to accomplish, realizing themselves and their potential. Absolutely all people are born creators and have certain talents or abilities to turn this dream into reality. Then why are so many people interested in the question of how to live better?
The answer is obvious: you should study your current situation and check its compatibility with the laws of the Universe. This is easy to do, but most people in society have a program that only a select few have talents and only a few can become successful and rich. This is wrong.
In fact, it is necessary to carry out an “audit” of what exactly is not satisfactory in the current situation, and what we would like to leave as is, or slightly improve. For example, a person does not like his level of income, the constant lack of money to pay off the mortgage and his boring job, but he has a wonderful family for which he is ready to change something in his life.
Laws of the Universe
Taking as a basis the axiom that life is the result of an idea about it, you can radically change everything in just 3 months, ceasing to violate the basic rules of the Universe:
- When people think about what they are doing, they are thereby implementing the law on absence, which works with enviable regularity every day. that there is no means of subsistence.
- A person who says that he hates his job thereby creates a situation where he is once again passed over for promotion, or gets a lucrative contract. The law of rejection is at work.
- People who believe that they are mediocre and do not have any talents, and therefore their lot is hard work for little money, include the law of correspondence. How a person sees himself is how he appears to the world around him.
- A person who insists that he hates his life violates the law of acceptance.
- People who make the same mistakes become victims of the law of cause and effect.
- When a person constantly complains and is dissatisfied even when the outcome is favorable, a violation of the law of thanksgiving occurs.
These are not all the canons of the Universe, but by violating them, you can spend the rest of your life wondering how to start living better, but never find the answer.
Analysis of habits
Changes will begin to come into existence after a person changes his negative thinking habits to the opposite:
- Even with very large debts or financial need, people can change their situation for the better. By asserting for 5 minutes after waking up and before going to bed that their income is growing every day and reaching the required level, they thereby “turn on” the law of presence, and the Universe is forced to create situations where the information fed into the subconscious becomes reality.
- Having figured out exactly what a job or business should be like, a person will turn on the law of acceptance, imagining that he is already doing what he loves and receiving the necessary income. In this case, conditions at the existing place of business may change or the desired option may arise.
- By writing a list of skills that a person is good at, he can change his level of self-esteem and thereby change the opinion of others about himself. At the same time, the law of correspondence begins to work.
- Only by accepting the mistakes of their incorrect thinking, which became the cause of bad thinking, can they “turn on” the law of acceptance.
- When thinking about a task, you need to learn to ask the question about what result you want to get from your actions. With this approach, there will always be the expected consequence.
- By feeling grateful for even just waking up in the morning, you can turn on one of the most powerful laws of the Universe.
In just three months of regular work with the subconscious, a person is able to rebuild his thoughts about his life, even if before that he thought and acted incorrectly for many decades. Changing attitudes is what helps people live better lives.
Work on yourself
Sometimes people think that creating changes in the conscious or subconscious is an incredibly difficult task that can only be done by those who know how to meditate and turn off their internal monologue. In fact, it is best to learn to replace the usual “word mixer” with new settings. You can even hum them, and tracking negative thoughts is the key to success.
You shouldn't expect instant results. It is their absence that causes most people to lose faith that these actions will help them understand how to live better. There are several rules to help cope with disappointment:
- First, you should learn to notice the signs that are weak at first that change is beginning. People are waiting for major events that will radically change their lives, but if the law of cause and effect is “turned on,” then the first hints will be completely inconspicuous. For example, there appeared new client, who decided to think before placing an order. The old way of thinking would have immediately written down his desire as a refusal and would have caused disappointment, but the new one will help him see a chance to figure out what the buyer really wants, which will help make a big deal.
- Secondly, it is necessary to accept another axiom that the world (the Universe) always shows its concern. Learning to notice this in little things, for example, in a minibus that arrived on time or in a series of green traffic lights on the way to work, is tracking signs. The phrase “my world takes care of me” after every positive little thing in life will help to gradually create inner harmony and calm the mind.
- Thirdly, show gratitude to the world (Universe) for everything that happens during this period of life, even for the bad.
Often people, inspired by the first small successes, lose faith when negative events occur. It is important to remember that they are echoes of old thinking, and troubles can happen more than once in 3 months of working on yourself.
Changing living space
This is the easiest way to understand what to do to live well. To do this, you don’t have to move to another city, country, or change apartment. It is enough to free your living and work space from things that you can do without.
This will allow energy to circulate freely, and something new will come into life. It is necessary to part with unnecessary things easily, since they do not define human essence.
For example, you can often hear that people experienced dramatic changes after they got rid of their TV and donated it to an orphanage.
Also to the changes living space include rearrangement of furniture, repairs, travel or a new route to work - each person is free to choose for himself what he likes best.
Using Affirmations
Affirmations are a very powerful technique for changing consciousness and working with the subconscious, if used correctly. These can be either short phrases or small texts containing formulations of a new vision of the world and one’s place in it. They can relate to all areas of life - health, family, money, travel, work, success and much more.
Rules for using affirmations:
- They should be written in a positive way. You cannot use denial, for example, the phrase “I don’t want to get sick” is better replaced with “I’m completely healthy” or “every day I feel better and better.”
- Affirmations must evoke positive emotions. Mindless repetition of a phrase, not supported by a feeling of happiness and joy, will not bring results.
- Each work with a statement must be accompanied by a visual image of the final result. For example, a person wants his business to generate 10 times more income, which means he should see a picture of a flow of grateful customers happily buying his service or product.
These are the basic rules for working with affirmation if it is carried out on a conscious level. To introduce it into the subconscious, you need to be able to relax and turn off your internal monologue, which not everyone can do.
Reward rule
You can often hear the question: “I want to live well, what should I do for this?” First of all, you need to learn to praise yourself and encourage yourself even for minor achievements. For example, exercise done in the morning through force is a reason to please yourself by buying a magazine dedicated to healthy image life.
People are so accustomed to scolding themselves both over trifles and for serious miscalculations that praise and encouragement must be instilled as a new habit. But it will pay off with new achievements, increased self-esteem and transformation of the opinions of others for the better.
Thanksgiving technique
Gratitude and love are the most powerful forces with which you can create miracles. In order for thanksgiving to become a habit, it is recommended to write down all the positive things in life. This could be vision and hearing, which help to perceive the surrounding reality, a healthy body, a cup of morning coffee and many other things that bring joy.
You can even give thanks for illnesses, since they are given so that people can reconsider their lifestyle and change it.
Technique for expanding the scope of activity
You can often hear “I want to live well,” but at the same time people are either afraid to change their occupation and hold on to a job they don’t like, or they don’t know where they can realize themselves. The technician will make the task easier. You need to write 100 ways in which you can make money.
Everything should be indicated, even those that you would never consciously do, such as collecting bottles. The main thing in technology is awareness of the fact that there are many things in the world for which people are willing to pay money. This will help you look at today’s activities from the outside, and perhaps the subconscious will tell you how not to work and live well. This often happens.
Required condition
For changes to happen, you need to apply the formula for a successful life: “be + do = have.” First you need to decide what it should be new life, and create an image suitable for it, then make the above techniques a habit, and only after that can you get the result in reality. It is recommended to replace the word “want” with “have”. This is the answer to the question of how to live better.
I'm not rich, I don't fly around the world, I don't drink in company famous people in exotic places, I have neither a sports car, nor a jeep, nor a yacht. And I'm very happy. Much happier than seven years ago, when I ate a lot of fried foods, sweets and constantly felt unhealthy and fat, when I watched TV and was out of shape, when I shopped a lot and was in debt, when I worked a regular job , where I received quite a lot and had no time for myself and my loved ones. How did I achieve this? With little tricks.
The truth is that you don't need much to live well - you just need the right attitude.
Here's what I've learned about living well with little:
1. You need very little to be happy.
Some simple, plant-based food, a modest home, a couple of sets of clothes, a good book, a laptop, a job that means something to you, and your loved ones.
2. Want less and you won't be poor.
You may have a lot of money and property, but if you always want more, you are poorer than the guy who has little and wants nothing.
3. Focus on the present
Stop worrying about the future and holding on to the past
How much time each day do you spend thinking about the things you physically do in the present moment? How often do you push away thoughts about other things? Live now and you will live fully.
4. Be happy with what you have and where you are.
Too often we want to be somewhere else, do something else, with other people and no matter what the circumstances are now, we would like to have things that are different from what we currently have. But where we are now is a wonderful place! Those we are with now (including ourselves) are already flawless. What we have is enough. What we are already doing is amazing.
5. Be grateful for the little pleasures in life.
Berries, a bar of dark chocolate, tea are simple pleasures that are much better than complex desserts, sugary drinks, fried foods, if you learn to enjoy them to the fullest. Good book borrowed from the library, a walk with a loved one in the park, the pleasant tension after a short, hard workout, the wonderful things your children say, the smile of a stranger, a walk barefoot in the grass, a moment of silence in the early morning when the rest of the world is still sleeping. These are small pleasures for a good life, without the need for anything more.
6. Move out of joy, not fear.
People go through life under the influence of fear of loss, fear of change, fear of missing out on something. These are bad reasons for doing something. Instead, do things that bring joy to you and those around you. Do your work, not because you need to maintain your lifestyle and are afraid to change it, but because you enjoy doing something creative, meaningful, valuable.
7. Practice compassion
Compassion for others creates love, which is the reward of relationships. Self-compassion means forgiving yourself for the mistakes of the past, correctly “healing” yourself (this includes healthy eating, and playing sports), loving yourself as you are.
8. Forget about productivity and numbers
They don't matter everywhere. If you do something to achieve a certain number(goals), then you have lost your understanding of what is really important. If you strive to be productive and fill your days with all sorts of things just to be them, this is a waste of time. This day is a gift and it doesn't have to be filled with all sorts of things - spend time enjoying it and what you do.
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